Thursday, September 18, 2008

NIce guys finish second?

This is the title of the autobiography of Mr B.K.Nehru, a cousin of Pt Jawaharlal Nehru.He had an illustrious career in the diplomatic service and government; he was also the Governor of J&K at a turbulent time.

Though I have not read the book myself,its quaint title set me thinking.Was it a reflection on Mr Nehru himself, whom was the quintessiential 'nice guy' or 'gentleman of the old school'?Or was it a statement of a fact thats perhaps does hold true today?

First,what is a 'nice guy'?I really can't say-but one thing, he would be surely devoid of the artificial gallantry and courtliness characteristic of the middle ages and more recently, in the erstwhile 'confederate' or southern states of the United States.

This century is the century of Mammon, of achievement.Being 'nice' is not really an asset if it hinders success and progress.

Success and progress which is measured in tangibles like how palatial is your home,the number of fancy cars lodged in your garage, the designer labels in which you strut, a wealthy husband or the society wife hanging on your arm........

'Nice' connotes some characteristics or values like politeness towards your elders or rather , during all interactions,playing each thought and action straight,doing at least all good that is possible without unduly hampering yourself.To put it very succintly, to avoid any action which is 'not cricket'!

It is frequently said that nice guys ( or gals) never make it to the top due to their refusal to do something morally troubling or personally distasteful to them.But then, 'achievement' is a fuzzy term.One may get as much satisfaction by avoiding a unpalatable action as by earning your first million.

I bet I'm sounding like one fuddy duddy loser-yet I maintain my right to remain nice:)



1 comment:

Kartik Srinivasan said...

Well said "To put it very succintly, to avoid any action which is 'not cricket'!"

I get the sense that you interpret nice as somebody innately noble and high minded. If so for such people the parameters of "achievement" that others use dont apply..bcos in their book being virtuous and noble minded is far higher than worldly achievements and dont such ppl eventually achieve Salvation than ruthless achievers like Changez Khan or Timur Lang.

Well written post, thought-provoking, its truly - "nice"!